Kids having kids
Is it hypocritical for me to be saying that to people who are having kids at teen age years? I’m assuming it is. But at the same time I think it isn’t.
The unplanned pregnancy with my girlfriend and I has broadened up my views on a lot. I know that what we got ourselves into is going to be for the rest of our lives and that we will now have to devote everything and anything to our daughter. Do I mind that? Definitely not.
Why don’t I mind that? It’s pretty simple in my point of view. Fathering my new born baby for the past 2 months has made me feel as if they were the best times of my life. During the pregnancy my pregnant teen age girlfriend and I were still together as a couple. Being there for one another. It gave me the opportunity to appreciate what her and I had and made me realize that I indeed wouldn’t mind being with her for the rest of my life and that if her and I stay strong we can overcome anything.
Lately we’ve been getting word of people around us being pregnant. I always mention the saying “kids having kids” I know it’s hypocritical but at the same time I know it’s not. My teen girlfriend constantly asks why I say that and she gets upset. As if I were meaning anything bad towards us. But I am definitely not. I don’t mean anything bad at all. It just saddens me to know that there are so MANY kids out there having kids. It’s just sad. I know we aren’t any exception to that saying but I know that we will make the best out of it and work hard to provide the best for our daughter.
Why am I constantly saying kids having kids? It’s hard to write it out and express how I really feel about the situation so I’ll try my best.
It is certain that I and my girlfriend are going to do the best for our lives to be the best it could be, both for us and for our daughter. When I hear that someone is having a kid at a young age I always seem to think the most negative of their situation. I know for a fact that my girlfriend and I are going to do it all, but will that other couple do the same? I think not. I think the worst of it and I always bring it up. My girlfriend often is bothered by what I say but it’s just how I feel. I know for a fact that we have supporting families who care about us and the newborn baby. I know that they will always be there for her no matter what.
We are definitely in a better situation than most of these other teen parents. I don’t take that for granted one bit. I just feel bad for those other parents who can’t have the same we can. Why bring a kid into a world where it will suffer more than what it should. I have no idea.
I’m sleepy. This makes no sense I bet. Goodnight
Hi,
I found your blog because you decided to follow me on Twitter. I am totally at the other end of the circle of life : I am having my second child at 40 and I had the first at 35. I want to let you know how impressed I am by your maturity and the love and care that you display for your girlfriend and daughter. I congratulate you and I hope everything will unfold nicely for your new family. I will continue to read your blog from up here, Montreal (Quebec), Canada.
This post makes A LOT of sense!! You are more mature and more with it than some parents who are not kids but act like it! You are taking responsibility way more than some older parents do. I was a teacher for 17 years and I can guarantee you that, from what I hear, you are up there at the top of the list of the parents that we’d like to see in this world.
I’m 39 soon and don’t have kids yet but I know I will soon. I have had a great life so far and now is the time for me to care about someone else. You are doing that now and your life will only be enriched by your experience and all doors are still open for you.
You are absolutely right in what you say in this post. YOu might be luckier than most and it is sad that so many kids are brought to this world without the right support.
Your daughter will be fine.
Hello TD,
I found this site because you left a comment on my blog (The Dave Fowler post).
I haven’t read all of your posts yet but you do seem to have a very positive parenting attitude. That can carry you and your new family a long way.
It’ll be good if your extended family are part of your support network.
One comment on your writing. There is a very honest flow to your words and I’ll probably read all of your posts now before I go to bed – it’s 1:43 am here in Tokyo. My daughter’s 13 and sound asleep until around 8am, as it’s school hols now.
Anyway, if you can spare even 30 mins a week, I’d encourage you to keep posting on your experiences. There’s a lot for other teens to learn from here – and not just teen parents.
Good luck.